Polite or Passive-Aggressive?

Are people in the South polite or are they passive-aggressive (or something else)?

Today I heard from a neighbor in The Summit that his phone is blowing up with complaints about my blog - this blog. He wanted to know why I am taking off on the Board the way I am.

That's news to me. 

I told him that he should tell anyone who calls him to complain about me, to call me.

In a seminar in the early 1980s in Denver, I heard this:
  • "Don't complain to anyone who can't do anything about it."
  • "Don't allow anyone to complain to you, if you can't do anything about it; instead, re-direct them to someone who CAN do something about it and support them in contacting that person."
If you think there is something wrong on my blog, tell me about it. If it's wrong, I'll fix it. If it's not wrong, I'll explain why it is correct (based on the CC&Rs, By-Laws, or Guidelines).

In 5½ years (since July 14, 2020) no one has ever called me about an error. On my own I have learned of a couple of times when something was not correct, but the person it was about never contacted me. 

I like The Summit. I like this Board (better than past Boards). They aren't perfect. They are trying hard. They could do better. And they could consider the well-intentioned offers of how things can be done better.

I detest the word "try". Yoda got it right. "Do. Or do not. There is no 'try.'"

For example, how are they going to prevent the chaos of past meetings at the March 3rd Board Meeting. Will they do so? I could tell them how to do that, but they don't want to hear it from me.

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